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Give and Gift

GIVE and GIFT are in the word forgiveness. When I decide to forgive someone who has wronged me, that is a GIFT that I GIVE to that person. And when I have decided to move on without the person with no bitterness at all – though I may remember the offence and the betrayal of trust as a lesson learned; and now with no need to have anything to do with him or her, then that is a gift I am giving to myself.

Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it. I am sure you are grateful to a lot of people who have helped you. So now go and unwrap the gift and let them know. It’s a perfect time to do that this Christmas season.

And here’s how to bring our actions to the next level according to William Arthur Ward… Do more than care: HELP. Do more than believe: PRACTICE. Do more than belong: PARTICIPATE. Do more than be fair: BE KIND. Do more than forgive: FORGET. Do more than dream: WORK.

Fight or Flight, Gratitude, Happiness, Humility, ISA for All, Life Lessons, Personality Development, Purpose, Relationships, Think Positive

Self and Selfie

I bet you have mastered the selfie; the question now is have we mastered the self?

There is a difference between an image and the true person. The image should not be a cover up or a pretension of the person but the real person should make the image connect with reality and this is what makes it beautiful.

When an honest and competent person gives us a negative comment we should be grateful and take that as a feedback designed to improve the self. But when a dishonest, unethical and incompetent person accuses us of being hard and stubborn, then take that as a compliment. They are operating on different standards.

There is power in the ability to evaluate the self. The key however is objectivity and we may be blindsided. This is why feedback from people we trust is important and we should be willing to accept correction. Successful people are always evaluating and improving themselves. The ones who do not are are usually evaluating and judging others.

Fight or Flight, Humility, ISA for All, Life Lessons, The Right Choice, Think Positive

Making Mistakes

“Oops!” So familiar an expression of mine every time I make a mistake. Over the years I have made tons of them. Maybe you have too. So here is a lesson I have learned and will share this with you.

Of course we make mistakes. We all do. But some people live with it and others fix it. The thing to do is to own it and stop the blame game. Then reconfigure a way to deal with it. Make past mistakes work for you. We make mistakes. Yes. We all do. And when we do we must be

1. Big enough to admit those mistakes.
2. Strong enough to correct them.
3. Smart enough to profit from them.
4. Wise enough not to repeat them.

Mistakes become lessons and failures become tuition and all these help us do better and be better. Just KISS! Keep It Simple, Stupid!

Fight or Flight, Humility, Life Lessons, Personality Development, Purpose, Relationships

Quiet People

Quiet people are not necessarily lonely, they may actually be enjoying the silence. People who are loud may not exactly be happy, sometimes they are just good in disguising their sadness. Appearance never tell the entire story.

There’s now what is called “disconnection anxiety”. This is when there’s no Wi-Fi or low-batt or no book or no television. And people become so anxious they don’t know how to handle the situation anymore.

Technology does not have a soul. You and I have. Learn to quiet the soul and be attuned to its Maker.

In the workplace, there are people who do not work much but are good in grabbing credit. There are those who quietly do the work and enjoy their accomplished work. One day the deficiencies of the fakers will be revealed. Meanwhile the quiet performers continue to upgrade their capabilities reaping their rewards. There’s no limit to what can be accomplished if it doesn’t matter who gets the credit.

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Had a Bad Day?

So you have had a bad day. I have. All of us do from time to time. Someone said this and has served as a good reminder for me. Perhaps this can help you too: Having a bad day doesn’t mean you have had a bad life.

So let’s get over it and move on. Tomorrow will be better.

Put your hand on your heart. Feel that? That’s called purpose. Don’t give up!

We cannot get everyone to agree with us. That is a fact. Some would not even like us. There will be haters. There will be criticism. There will be those who love to bad mouth. And there will be those who will doubt you.

Just stick to the truth and focus on doing what is right. Truth will one day prove them wrong. Don’t play their game.

Here is the key: If you can’t beat them NEVER join them. Not worth it at all.

Sometimes we have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of our life.

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Energy Vampires

People are always unavailable for people who are constantly complaining and angry all the time. It’s not that they are insensitive, it is simply because their energy are zapped and their beauty is uglified by all that negativity. Put on a smile on your face and be an encourager instead. The world opens up to you in terms of friendship and opportunities.

Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and the thinkers. But most of all surround yourself with those who see greatness within you.

Some people equate the worth of a person with the work he or she produces. That is all so wrong. You are worth so much not because of what you do but because of what Christ has done for you on the cross. This is why only Christ gives intrinsic worth. No need to feel sorry for yourself. You are worth so much in the eyes of The One who have His life for you.

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Saying Sorry

Saying sorry is important and it works. But saying sorry works only when a mistake is done but not when trust is broken.

So in life as in business, we can afford to make mistakes, say sorry and repair the mistakes. But we can never afford to break trust. Forgiving is easy but forgetting and trusting again takes a long time and is sometimes impossible.

We make mistakes. We apologise and say, I am sorry. But make sure we do not mess up an apology with an excuse. “I am sorry… BUT… the reason why I did what I did…” This is not an apology because the word BUT nullifies the effort. Genuine apology also means the correction of the wrong that has been done. Repair for the damage has to be initiated. This is the responsibility of the one who did the wrong. If this part is missing the process is incomplete.

We all have made mistakes and there are many who want reform and recovery. When the intention is honest and sincere, there is no longer any need to bring up the past of a person when the same person is trying to improve his or her future.

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Start Walking

Have you ever had a friend correct you? Did he or she approach you gently or get in your face and raise their voice? Were they gentle or rough? Makes all the difference. It’s not always what you say that is wrong, but it’s the way you say it. The next time you need to confront someone about a problem, make sure you choose your words and your tone of voice wisely and skilfully.

Sensitive, serious relationships require serious, faithful commitment and responsibility. And if after a long while you are still confused and cannot figure out where you stand with someone, it might be time to stop standing and to start walking. That may just be your true independence day!